Engagement and wedding freak out!
I’ve been quite public about the feelings that have come up for me after getting engaged, and now leading up to the wedding – and quite frankly, I sometimes I feel like I’m all alone, or I can’t share these feeling with anyone.
Thank goodness, a good friend encouraged me to read “The Conscious Bride” a book for brides that discusses many of the issues that no one talks about.
It’s really a MUST-READ for anyone who is getting married, and even women who are already married.
One of the main themes it covers is almost like the post-partum that women go through when they have a baby. There is literally a mourning period that goes along with getting married – and no one is talking about it! What I have learned is that almost ALL women that get engaged go through a mourning period, and that most woman have really intense feelings that come up around their wedding as well.
I’ve definitely been feeling these kinds of things, and it’s great to know I’m not the only one!
I highly recommend this book to ALL women out there! We need to be able to talk about this openly and support each other!
In love and service,
The way I have successfully gotten myself to go the gym is by making it more fun to go than NOT to go. I do this buy buying my favorite drink in the world (kombucha) and drinking it every 5 min or so while I’m there. It’s like rewarding myself and indulging. Also, I download the mp3 of whatever book is most captivating or inspiring to me at the moment & I listen & follow along with it, which keeps me on the elliptical for 40 minutes without ever thinking, “GOD, when will this END!?!?” I also make sure to never push myself to a point where I feel resentful of the activity. You should force yourself to make it really super fun and exciting for a few days, and then you’ll actually look *forward* to it. I always make it first thing in the morning and my day is about one thousand times better than on those days I don’t go. Sadly, today is one of those days, but I never nag myself for not going. Every day is a clean slate… and I have the opportunity to make that day magical and inspiring, using something I used to hate as the vehicle.
What happened with Eben?
I would have sworn you to would have wound up together. He is probably crushed…
We’re super close friends still. I’m friends with his new girlfriend, and he is friends with my fiancé, so we’re one big happy family! Sometimes you just want different things.